Friday, December 31, 2010


As I look back on 2010 I realize one thing, it was overall a gigantic disappointment. There are so many things that I want to do that I have not done, didn't even start, or did not finish that it is quite depressing really. HOWEVER! I will be 31 in 15 minutes and I have decided that this year will be the start of the next 30. There are things that I want to do, helping people, helping myself, all of which I have been putting off, medically, monetarily, and community services such as helping kids. I really want to help kids because I feel like that would do the most good. You can help adults but they are essentially set in their ways, whereas kids still have a vast amount of potential that just needs to be tapped into. SO, I have decided that this year I am going to start at least ONE thing, whether it be with a school, or foster homes, group homes, I dunno yet. But something is going to be started, and hopefully it will be big enough that I can help lots of people. Also, I am going to get my medical stuff squared away once and for all. I am tired of not knowing, guessing, thinking it's one thing and then something else happening, I'm just fed up with all of the repeated screw ups. I am going to go and get tested for everything under the sun, and SOMETHING will give, because I am tired of this game that is my life. My kids need more from me, I need more from me, so more is what I will find in myself to give. Plus, I don't want my kids growing up with this disgust and hatred towards people that I have, obviously not to everyone, but I have lent a helping hand and had it bitten off so many times that I have grown bitter towards those who need help and are not just using me for what I can give. I am going to try and find that nurturing side of me that I have had for some time, but has been dormant for a very long time. I am determined to do something better this year, and in years to come. On that note, Happy New Year to everyone, and if anyone has any suggestions, or advice, or would like to help with any ideas or future endeavors please feel free to write.

Wednesday, December 29, 2010


So, I am not exactly sure where to start. I am exhausted, I know that much. LOL.

Christmas was good. As good as it could be I guess. The kids were very excited about their Christmas presents. I think my favorite present was Jaron's drums. LOL. I like the drums, I just hope he really puts himself into them. I think he has great potential to be really good at them. Austaya's electric guitar keeps breaking a string because something is wrong with the tuning knobs. So we have to go get that fixed, but she seemed really excited about it. Odie hasn't been excited about much of anything because he had broken his arm, then he got his cast off but he has to take it easy, and now he has the cold that we have all been passing around. LOL. Poor guy can't win for losin'. Hopefully we will all get over it soon.

As for getting over it, I decided to finally go to the doctor for what I thought was a UTI. Turns out it's a little more serious than that. I'm not very happy about it. I always put stuff off for the sake of dealing with everything else that is going on just to find out that I am sicker than I thought. LOL. You would think I would know better by now. Anyway, on that note, I have a whole gang of tests to look forward too, again. I have no idea what is wrong with me other than the increase in bilirubin in my system. Let me tell ya how much that caught me off guard. LOL. I had never even considered that something that could happen to adults. Now I have no idea what I should be doing. Should I be eating certain foods, drinking certain fluids, sleeping more, sleeping less, exercising, not exercising? Your guess is as good as mine. I have no idea what is going on, or what can help it improve until I get the tests done. I hate the waiting game. I have done this before too many times and I hate it. And I always seem to end up with the unknown. It's so frustrating. And I'm so tired right now I have no energy to clean, move, anything, so that makes it really hard for me to distract myself from all of this crap. The only thing I have the energy to do is think, and even THAT is a stretch half the time.

I am feeling very alone in this battle. It's weird for me because I have never really been one to rely on anyone for moral support, or for help with stuff. Usually if I want something done, or it needs to be done, I just do it myself. But I am literally exhausted from the minute I wake up until the minute I go to bed, and then I have a hard time sleeping. Go figure. LOL.

And then there are relationship issues that are draining me just by thinking about it. I have exhausted all talking, lecturing, being understanding routes that I could take. And honestly at this point I am not sure that I have the energy to try to fix anything. Normally I stick it out until hell freezes over, and try to make things better, or just turn into a cold hearted bitch who doesn't care and make it work. But with everything else going on, I just don't have it in me anymore. The one thing I do know is that I cannot live like this. And I'm not sure I want to. But I guess we will see how things go.

My birthday is this Saturday. UGH! I'm gonna be 31. Where did the last 12 years go? LOL. Oh well, happy birthday to me I guess.

The homeschooling thing went out the door. My older two just will not cooperate. AND THEN I put them in public school and they proceed to lie, cheat, and steal their way to not doing their homework and not doing their school work. I really don't know who they are anymore. They are not the kids that I left in Montana a year ago that's for sure. They used to like school. Now they just spend their days misbehaving and trying to find ways to be completely uncooperative, and not doing their work. It's so weird. Their homework has been a struggle too. It's weird, I feel like every thing that is going on, every, single last thing is going against everything I am doing, or trying to do. I thought that things were supposed to get better, but they have done nothing but get worse, and worse, and worse. It's really baffling. I just don't understand at all what is going on anymore. Anyway, I guess just take it one day at a time.

Friday, November 19, 2010

Long week

This has been one of those weeks where I am not sure what happened, or where the time went, or who possessed everyone in my house. LOL. My four baby Odie fractures his humerus in his elbow last Friday, and has had to wear a splint all week. Needless to say, HE HATES IT! He has been extra special miserable, and his misery is wearing off on everyone involved. I have been staying up late with him each night so he can sleep on the couch, where I can prop his arm and there is no risk of his four year old brother kicking the crap out of him while they are sleeping. I have not been sleeping hardly at all this week, but oddly enough I have been functioning physically better than before, when I slept for 12 hours a day. Sleep is supposed to help me more, but I think my body got too used to sleeping and just never wanted to wake up. LOL. Something tells me the "adrenaline" of the crazy week will wear off just in time for Thanksgiving, and I will have to drag myself through cooking all that food, and trying to be the cheery holiday addict that I usually am. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE THE HOLIDAYS, but it seems that whenever you HAVE to keep it together you do. But as soon as the heavy stress goes away, all of a sudden it all catches up with you and you feel like death. But let's just keep our fingers crossed that that won't happen.

On that note I have lots of good stuff planned for Thanksgiving. I am going to bake an apple pie from scratch, I am going to make lots of cookies, and I am going to start experimenting with the candies I want to make. I am also going to try this really great recipe that I got from the Food Network for home made green bean casserole. That is one dish I usually omit, I never make it in fact. However, this recipe looks GOOD! So, you know me, I gotta try it.

Erik's work is driving me nuts. I pretty much can't stand his Chief. The guy is single and has no clue what life is like outside of the Navy, and with four kids, and you know, LIFE. Very, very, very frustrating. Erik just keeps feeding into it too, I might have to beat them both. LMFAO.

Halloween was a success. The trip to Annapolis to visit John Paul Jones' tomb was also a success. The Halloween party and the pumpkin patch all went very well. The kids were all excited that they got to pick their very own unique pumpkins. They each carved them, and it was funny how their pumpkins matched their personalities. They got more candy then we can eat in a decade. LOL. That plus all the cake and cupcakes Erik's been making lately, we are going to weigh a ton before the holiday's are over.

Tons more to report but no time now. I will write again as soon as I can. :) Happy holidays ya'll! :)

Monday, October 4, 2010

College Student Suicide

All right, so how to voice my irritation about this subject, without offending quite a few people? Unfortunately, I don't think there is a way but I will try to be circumspect.

Before hand I would like to make perfectly clear that I am not trying to be disrespectful, and I am most definitely not racist. I am however, extremely prejudice, but it is not ethnicity to which I am prejudice, nor any specific group for that matter, it is individual people and their individual behavior with which I have a problem. Personally I do not care what color, or sexuality, or age, or sex, or religious beliefs you have, it makes no difference to me. If you are an idiot, then even if you were green, you are still an idiot.

So a kid goes to college, is trying to better himself, is successful at what he does, and happens to be gay. Nobody cares. Nobody thinks anything of it. But then you add Dharun, who obviously is extremely insecure, has too much time on his hands, apparently likes to smoke pot regularly, which doesn't say much for the school, and feels the need to exploit said kid's PRIVATE life. And all of a sudden it becomes a big joke, and the poor kid can't deal with it anymore. Now, someone please explain to me why Molly and Dharun are NOT being charged with a hate crime, or better yet, involuntary manslaughter? If you hit a pedestrian on the street, you get nailed for that even if you had no other choice. If you sell a drug to someone, and they OD and die, you are guilty (if they can trace it back to you of course) of involuntary manslaughter. This kid taped it, relayed it over the Internet. Then does it AGAIN, and plans this one so he can have a bigger audience for the "event", they think it's so funny making the life of this poor kid hell, and they are getting videotaping and distribution?
That's the best they can do? No offense, but if the kid was black, there would be an uproar because he was black, and he was gay, and it was a hate crime, and the list goes on.
Now, again, I am not racist nor do I hold any particular dislike against any group as a whole. I also believe that people who treat others with such disrespect as to cross that privacy line so blatantly have waived any right they had to their privacy, and the opinion of others towards them. But let's be honest here. If Tyler had been videotaping Dharun, and claiming he was a terrorist, and doing all of this to Dharun just because it was "funny", who knows what the repercussions would have been for Tyler. A slap on the wrist? I doubt it.

That being said, I think it is being grossly downplayed by the school, and the fact that those kids are only being charged with videotaping and distribution is mind boggling. Makes me wonder what is happening in the United States anymore......

Saturday, October 2, 2010

Home School - First Week

SO, this week went pretty well. We were all so into it on Monday and Tuesday, it felt like it was going to be a breeze. But then the novelty started to wear off and we got a little burned out. LOL. I was EXHAUSTED by Wednesday. In my defense I have also been working quite a lot, so I have not had much of a break. But I pushed through, and we got through their work. They had a spelling pretest on Monday and by Friday they were SO MUCH BETTER! I had a great sense of accomplishment since they had improved. I felt like I did something right :)

Odie is crazy good. He is so smart it's scary sometimes. I can read a poem to him and he recites it back to me word for word like he already knew it, but he had never heard the poem before. I was surprised to find out that he did not know his ABC's all the way through, I thought he did. But he is much better now, already showing improvement on that. He smoked through his math, and has no problem with the work. He is funny in that he gets frustrated when he has to copy letters down. He doesn't understand that the repetitious writing is to help him learn HOW to write them as well as just learning the letter. But if I give him tons of encouragement he will continue doing it just to hear about how well he's doing. LOL.

Oz is getting hammered. TONS of reading, she gets fried way before the boys do. Which is kind of funny because Jaron has the most reading stuff, reading science, phonics, reading in general, spelling, reading history, reading, reading, reading. She has mostly reading too but it's different because her books are geared more towards older students, with more difficult vocabulary and more in depth explanations. She has a harder time getting through the day than the boys. She is doing very well though.

Bubba is just Bubba. He is eight, and bored with it. School is just school to him. He has improved in his understanding of the subjects, and is starting to associate some of his learning with the rest of the world, which is really cool. But when it comes to doing the work, no matter how small the task, "Oh, not that." he says. LOL. But he does it, then feels very proud of himself, and then we move on. It's funny how different all of them are in their learning.

The baby tries to get in on it sometimes. But when he wants to do school and I try to teach him a letter, I usually end up with a drawing of some monster. LOL. He has more fun doodling, so I let him for now. He does the poems with us and he has fun with that.

Jaron got his poem he wrote last year published in a real poem book! I ordered them yesterday morning, and we won't get them until April sometime. BUT, he wrote it in second grade, and it is really being published, in a real honest to God book of poems. We are all very proud of him, and so is he. He is very excited that he got to do that, and he takes a much more positive approach to the poem work we are doing in his schooling this year than any other subject. He seems to have taken a liking to science, hopefully that will continue.

Friday, September 24, 2010

Home School - The beginning.

So, I got my kids' homeschooling materials a few days ago. I put off unpacking them because I had work to do. But today, Friday, I finally got a chance to unpack it all and sort through it, finding a safe and organized place to put it, and sort of wrap my head around what lies ahead.

BOY, did I underestimate the amount of work I have ahead of me. I wanted to be a teacher growing up, and would love to do it now but don't have time to attend college classes on top of everything else. Also, I wanted to be able to have my kids for the school year and don't trust the neighborhood in which they would have to go to school. SO, homeschooling it is. But as I unpacked all of the materials, workbooks, study guides, lesson books, arts and crafts, science materials, reading, math worksheets, I realized how much is involved with it.

I am, however, SUPER EXCITED! I am so looking forward to spending the extra time with the kids, and being able to have a hands on part in their schooling. I think my biggest concern for me is how much I don't know, and how will that affect my ability to teach them. BUT, I have ample resources online, and the school I went through, Calvert Homeschooling, has EVERYTHING I could possibly need and then some I think. LOL. They have so much stuff and send you so many materials that I would be hard pressed to screw this up. However, I am fully capable of such a blunder. LOL

So on that note, I will be starting their "classes" on Monday. Luckily for me, they are all very excited to start, so at least I won't have to convince them that they want to do it. I think it may end up being the other way around. LOL. Kindergarten will probably be the easiest, but there are SO many books that he has. I think it's good, and he is a terrific learner, but I also have to juggle third grade and fifth grade to boot. Again, I am very excited though :)

Wish me luck! LOL

Monday, September 20, 2010


My ex husband is insufferable. He has been stringing me along for about six years, trying to get me to cheat on my husband with him, using the kids against me, implying I am a bad mother, etc. Now granted, I know he is the ex, there are bitter feelings towards me and the situation. However, bringing the kids into the fight is completely immature.

He has FINALLY started to date someone else. Well, let me back up a bit.
He has been waiting for me to come back this entire time that we have been separated, and then divorced, always implying I would be back, and making his comments to the kids and I, always trying to rock the boat. The entire time I have been with my husband, previously boyfriend then fiance, he has been making comments from "He is gonna hit you over the head with a brick and beat you." to "He's a communist because he knows Arabic." You get the idea.

The other day I told him that Erik was going to teach the kids French, and they had already learned a couple phrases. Instead of being happy for them and supportive, he says he doesn't know what to say to that, and that, as mentioned above, Erik is a communist. He said French is a girlie language and that he will teach them the "manly" stuff when they are with him since they are not learning anything worth knowing here.

Back to the beginning, he FINALLY started dating someone new, and ever since then he says that he hasn't loved me for years, blah blah blah. I really don't care about that. What I do care about is that now he feels the need to make comments about Erik to school to languages, to just about everything that I am trying to do with the kids because now, apparently, he is superior to everyone with his new "girlfriend". I am fine with comments towards me, I can deal with that. But he is bringing the kids in constantly, telling them things constantly, being unsupportive of just about everything they do here, and I have about reached my limit. It is neither fair to them nor appropriate for them to have to deal with his mental immaturity. It completely sucks for them.

I just had to get that off my chest, it's been pissing me off for several days now. LOL.

Friday, September 10, 2010

Where were you on 9/11?

I am curious where people were, what they were doing, when they heard about and followed 9/11. Please feel free to share stories, thoughts, and prayers here.

Where was I:
I was in Montana, pregnant with my second kid, getting ready to go to a Welfare appointment, LOL. My best friend at the time was listening to the radio quite intently but I was so caught up in what I was doing, I didn't hear what they were saying on the radio. Then when I came out of my appointment he was like, listen to this, and he turned up the radio. The radio voice was describing exactly what was going on, the plane hit, the people, everything. It was so creepy, like War of the Worlds.

We went straight to his parents house where I frantically started calling my Aunt every five minutes for hours. Of course I couldn't get through, the phone lines were jammed, which only made me worry more since she lived in Manhattan. We watched it play out on TV and it was so surreal. I felt horrible for all of the people who were there, in it, around it, watching it, anyone who was involved. It was so scary to think of how they felt. I finally reached my aunt and she was okay. She was, of course, shaken up by the whole thing, since she has been in NY for over 30 years, it's all her home to her.

I had been at the top of the WTC three years prior to the attack having lunch with my aunt and my foster sister. It was crazy to think that only three years separated the events. I am forever thankful for the people who got out, and saddened for the ones who didn't. God Bless everyone who was involved.

Thursday, September 9, 2010


My poor baby fell on the stairs today, not down them thankfully. But he fell down and hurt his nose, I thought he broke it at first. But it seems better now.

Last night I put a new picture up as my wallpaper on the computer. He walked up and asked me why it was an inner view of the picture. LOL. What three year old uses words like THAT?? It was pretty awesome actually, that he was so smart to use that word. But still, I was surprised. Just like my five year old when he was younger, he used to use big words all the time, and it always surprised me whenever he would. The younger two have a knack for shock value. LOL

Wednesday, September 8, 2010

Fibromyalgia Tip of the Day

According to the Fibromyalgia and Fatigue Center a vital problem to our pain is proper, or should I say, improper body mechanics. They say that we should focus on how we sit, and how we stand to align our bodies, even if it is "painful", it will relieve pain long term.

As a Fibro sufferer I can understand why they would say that. Just the simple task of sitting up straight kills my back. But it is important that we focus on our posture to improve our future pain management.

These are some of their tips for proper posture etiquette:

Standing for Long Periods

* Correct Feet Apart
* Align Ears, Shoulders, Hips
* Slight Bend to your Knees

Sitting for Long Periods

* Correct Shoulders Back & Aligned with Hips
* Hips level with knees
* Upper arms close to the body
* Items within close reach
* Television/Monitor at eye level
* Keyboard at or slightly lower than elbow height
* Lower back support
* Reposition/stand frequently

Proper lifting is to lift with your arms, your back straight, and not bending at the waist.

* Always Remember Do NOT bend at the waist
* Arms close to your body
* Back Straight
* Avoid twisting motions
* Use your abdominal muscles
* Use the power of your leg muscles to lift

If anyone wants to know about Fibromyalgia, or how I deal with it, or things I have learned, please feel free to write to me. If I know the answer I will share, and if I don't I am always open to learning something new in the process of helping you find the answer. :)

Labor Day Promises - President Obama

President Obama over the Labor Day weekend promised that he is going to pull the troops from Iraq by the end of next year. I can only hope, since I am married to a military man, that this is true. He said he is pulling troops out now, and it will continue until next summer. And that all of the troops, whether there for defense, or support, whatever their job, will be coming home by the end of 2011. I do hope this is true, not only for our economy and the fact that our country needs it's people right now here at home, but also because I have had a hard time wrapping my head around this war. I sit back and listen to how many people have been shot and killed, bombed, etc., and every time I just ask myself why? I know that we are trying to help the Iraqi people to get on their own two feet, I have no problem with that. I just don't understand how we can be worried about them right now when our own country is going under. And I also wonder how we are even ABLE to help them with the limited resources we have for our own people to live on.

That being said, I will be glad when it's over so we can fix our own country, without having to worry about more of our young future being gunned down for another country's problems. I hope that Iraq can succeed once we leave, I don't wish them any harm, or failure, I will just be glad when everyone is home and I can stop worrying about my husband being shipped off for a reason I don't understand fully.

Let's keep our fingers crossed that this is one promise the United States Government keeps. And God Bless all of our Men and Women fighting over there, and let's hope that a year and a half from now is not too late for them.

Friday, September 3, 2010


So, I was talking with my husband the other day and realized something. We were talking about my kids, and how when I am scolding them for something I inevitably say "I never used to do that when I was a kid". Well, as we were sitting there talking I realized that when I looked back to when I was eight, or ten, it was never even an option to do some of the things they do. I had to grow up faster than most, so when I try to relate to how they behave sometimes it is nearly impossible.

I already kind of knew that, but it never really occurred to me. I have always tried to do things with them differently than things were done with me. Not necessarily because my parents were bad parents, but because I have learned a lot over the years and some of the things, mostly by my mother, that were done when we were kids were not the most productive treatments in the world. LOL But once I actually said it out loud, it made sense why I can't relate to them sometimes.

It's hard to parent when you have nothing to compare it to. Some of the things they do just blow my mind, but I can't relate to them on their level because I have had no experience in that department. I just hope that I don't screw it up. LOL. I think I am doing okay though, but sometimes I just want to scream, or lock myself in the bedroom and never come out. But at least now that it occurs to me that I can't relate to them it is easier for me to take a step back and not get as frustrated with their behavior.

In all honesty though, I have four of the greatest kids ever.

Thursday, September 2, 2010

Hurricane Earl along the North Carolina Coast

NASA Photo

Hurricane Earl along the North Carolina Coast

It is so beautiful and yet so destructive. I love shots like this from space. I do hope that no one gets hurt and that the damage is minimal. Some of the most dangerous things are so beautiful in the world.

Saturday, August 28, 2010


Last night was not a good night. It technically should have been since Erik came home finally and then we had the weekend where he would actually be home, and I got Season 7 of NCIS in the mail and was so excited to watch it. However, excitement soon faded to gloom as the night progressed.

It would seem that I am going to have to reteach Erik how to be around us every single time he goes away for more than a day or two. He was cranky, snapping at everything, he and I were butting heads as soon as he walked in the door, and every time I said something it was like he didn't even hear me. I was so frustrated I almost skipped dinner and just worked all night. FINALLY I just decided to play with the kids for a bit, which made me feel better. But then he came up to play with us and within 30 seconds had snapped at my daughter, and made her upset, again..... I got her to stop being cranky, and we all went back to playing. Then I went out for a cigarette, and she came out with us. She sat down next to me and was being silly, and lightly hit him in the shoulder with the boys' plastic shovel, which he proceeds to grab from her and glare at her like he was going to beat her with it, which pissed me off. I haven't said much to him other than I wish he could go away and start over, quite hopefully with a better attitude.

Today I wake, and I'm SICK! Where did I get sick? I have no clue. I haven't left the house but twice in the last week. So I am SO not happy about that. I have too much work to do. However, I am totally out of it but promised the kids I would take them to Petco to look around, which we did. They had fun but I was getting more and more fatigued as the seconds passed. After they got to check out all of the animals and stuff we left, went to the grocery store, and came home. But the trip is not what has me miffed, it's his down, totally out of it attitude like because I'm sick he needs to drag his ass around also. My ex-husband used to do that to me, and it is infuriating. I asked him about it and he just said he wasn't being frumpy, or at least he didn't mean to be, but the attitude hasn't gotten too much better.

I am SO frustrated right now. I thought he would be happy to be home. He says he is happy to see me, and be home with me, but he is acting like the kids are on his nerves constantly. He is jumping them about everything from playing in the dirt to leaving their toys around, I have to play mediator on top of working and being sick. I realize that I am "MOM" and will always and forever be the pillar of "sanity" between the kids and the rest of the world. But his disconnected attitude is not helping me feel better, nor get my work done faster, and I am constantly listening for the next World War III to break out in the living room. It's really disconcerting to me right now, and I'm not sure what I should do. I guess there really isn't anything I can do besides be the middle man. I just wish I knew what changed between a year ago and now. Things were so much different then, and in a good way.

Anyway, that is my venting session for now. I hope to be able to write some stuff later on but I must finish my work. :))

Thursday, August 26, 2010

I'm so bored

I'm so bored today. I didn't sleep at all last night, and I woke up in a fog, literally. I took the kids outside for a few minutes, but I couldn't stay out there. One of my meds makes me sensitive to the sun and my cheeks have felt sunburned ever since, even though I don't have any marks. So blah. I let them play out there though, and just listened for any subsequent screaming or crying. Unfortunately they got bit to smithereens by the mosquitos, but they don't seem to notice right now, so I don't think I will mention it to them. LOL

My husband is gone. He went to this "class" yet again for his work and has been gone since yesterday. Not too big of a deal, I'm used to him being gone all the time at this point. Too bad I have to stay in this big house I hate just to be married to him. What the heck am I thinking? I don't really get it either. I wish I could just pick up and move, but I can't. Counting the seconds for two years to be up, then I can finally be out of this place. tick tock.....

The kids are bored, but I'm so unmotivated and tired that I can barely sit at the comp and do anything besides want to go to bed. But they say it's not bed time yet. LMFAO. Oh well, what can you do? If only the caffeine would kick in. I think when he gets home tonight, I will go straight to bed and let him deal with the kids. hehehe

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

My very first real post

Well it's August 25th at 11:30 and my dad helped me set up my very own blog, and it's not on Myspaz either. LMFAO. Thanks dad!